I don’t talk openly about my chronic pain with many of the people I know.
I may mention it in passing when I’m having a flare up and need to do things differently from how I normally would, like sitting down at a party instead of standing and chatting with everyone in the kitchen.
But for the most part, I try to not talk about my pain too much.
This blog marks a pretty huge break from that philosophy, y’all.
Because not talking about what I’ve been going through has made me feel super isolated. Chronic pain has been such a huge part of my life for the last 15 years, influencing so many of my day to day decisions. Not talking about it is weird.
Chronic pain is why I don’t always hang out for very long when attending get-togethers. It is why I prefer staying in to going out. It’s why I’m glad I have a small house, because I can barely keep up with normal daily household chores as is.
It is why I’ve turned down so many invites to go to the park, or to go on nature walks. It is why I don’t offer to help friends move.
But talking about chronic pain with people who don’t understand it can be super isolating, too. Not to mention how exhausting it can be trying to explain why you do the things you do to people who just. don’t. get. it.
But I’m hoping that talking about it here will help.
Help me feel heard. Help me feel less isolated.
And I’m hoping that this blog will help you the same way, too.
Maybe you aren’t ready to tell everyone in your life what you’ve been going through. But I hope you’ll feel comfortable enough to share it here.
Do you talk openly about your pain? Why or why not?