You take the good. You take the bad. You take ‘em both, and
there you have
the facts of life a glimpse into what it’s like to be
Just needed to get that out of my system.
But the theme song from one of my favorite childhood shows may have been onto something…
I don’t really know if positive thinking (or choosing happiness, looking on the bright side, or whatever else people may be calling it) is the best thing to do if you are trying to feel your feelings as a way to heal from or manage chronic pain.
But I do know that if left to its own devices, my brain will focus on the worst of every possible situation until I don’t want to do anything but hide under the covers in the fetal position and sleep all day.
Which is so not how I want to spend whatever time I have left on this planet.
I’m spending some time every day making sure that I feel my feelings and give them the time and attention they deserve. But while I’m at it, I’m also making sure to train my brain to notice and appreciate all the good things in my life too.
Otherwise it is just too damn easy to forget that there even is good stuff going on.
Maybe it’s a product of this culture, where “If it bleeds, it leads”. Or maybe it is just how human brains are wired; part of our survival instinct.
But until I hear otherwise, I’m going to make sure that I do both. Feel my feelings while also continuing to look for the silver lining.
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So, in addition to using Curable and journaling, I’m also spending some time on affirmations.
I mean, why not?
It’s not like adding a few extra minutes onto my daily writing practice is a big deal.
Ok. Yes. It feels cheesy.
I’m doing it anyway.
And I think it is helping. Not only has my pain decreased, I’m feeling more hopeful.
It seems like I’m having an easier time finding solutions rather than spending all my time obsessing about my problems.
It’s helping me be more productive.
I’m feeling more alive.
Here are the affirmations I’ve been using:
I am safe.
I am strong.
I am healed.
I am enough.
I am at peace.
I am resilient.
I am energetic.
I deserve to be healthy.
I love and value myself.
I can ask for what I want.
I forgive myself for being fallible.
It is safe for me to feel my feelings.
What do y’all think about affirmations? Have they helped you? Do you think making space for both the good and the bad makes for a richer life?